When it comes to long-term relationships, research shows that it’s the women that are getting bored when it comes to sex with their significant others. It’s not just one study that shows that either, the data seems to be coming from all sides…so brace yourself:
- A British study from 2017 found women have less interest in bumping uglies when they’ve been with a guy for more than a year and feel even “less sexual desire” when they live with him.
- That backs up 2012 research that says that the longer a relationship goes on, the more a woman’s desire for sex decreases. That’s not the case with a man.
- And before that? A 2006 study from Germany showed that a man’s desire for sex remains solid…so to speak…for the duration. On the other hand, 60% of women tend to want “frequent” sex in the beginning, then that number drops by half after four years, and plummets to about 20% after 20 years.
Enter Francois Renaud,a psychotherapist and sexologist. He says that these findings confirm what he’s been seeing “for years” in his practice. “Women tend to get bored faster in a monogamous relationship,” he says. “They want a form of sexual variety, while men are often content with very little. It’s often women who will lose their desire first.”
His solution?Variety.Not adding people, per say – but think. If you do the same thing over-and-over again…you’ll get bored, too. On the other hand, if you change things up frequently, things stay interesting and exciting.